HeartlessAssassin

cheesycharles:

I speak to a lot of people about this and they don’t always understand, so let me explain:

No one like breaking up (unless you’re a heartbreaker) and in long relationships, we often find ourselves doing things beyond a casual date, such as cuddling or saying things like “I love you” which, I know i know, we don’t all like those words. A lot of people use “I love you” too loosely or we just don’t like commitment, but i am sure most of us have said it before. If you’ve loved someone before, or at least cared greatly for them, why does it have to stop nice when you realize that a relationship isn’t what you want with that person. Sure, there are pricks out there who will cheat or lie or tape over your favorite football game, but there is such a thing as karma, and they will wake up one day and realize that what they’re doing is wrong. I also see people who tend to make relationships end ugly just because that “magic” isn’t there anymore and you try to force it to come back. My point being, you felt greatly about this person at one point, maybe you should try and understand them a little more outside the relationship.

My ex for example, we dated for roughly a year. I loved her, we connected in ways i haven’t been able to before. Then there was her best friend julian, who was wanting to be with her for a long time, and since she didn’t quite understand how to handle me being depressed from the loss of a best friend, we broke up in the end. It was somewhat mutual, she broke up with me and I agreed after a while. I think she was making excuses for her dating her best friend not even a week after we break up. We’re still friends, we may not be as close as we once we’re, but I understand that the flame wasn’t there for her anymore, and dispite the fact that she broke up with me three weeks before prom, dated her best friend six days after our seperation, and so on, she’s still a good person as a friend. Probolly not the best option for a girlfriend anymore.

She had a lot of troubles at home, and so I willingly did what I had to do to make this break up as easy for her as I could, as I’ve done with past girlfriends. Everyone has enough troubles as it is, they dont need the extra grief of a break up. I take all the hits and put asside my grief to make sure that they’re okay. It’s bad enough we’re breaking up, we don’t need to fight about it. Things don’t always work out. I can handle all the sadness and depression real easy, i’ve got it easy in life, other people aren’t so lucky. I feel i’m doing good in helping them get over the break up, even if I end up being treated like shit in the end, or loose a friend, no one deserves to suffer in this world. Especially when it’s a matter so close to the heart.

Long story short, You loved them once, no reason to not be friends.
i think i started to get off topic somewhere. I think this turned out to be more of a rant.